MissSofiaMoon

when I was pulling faces my mummy used to tell me:
"when the wind changes, you'll face'll stick, and you'll look that way forever!"
it's funny the stuff you actually believe when you're a kid. teehee.
but a grain of truth, even in a silly saying like that.
thankfully I didn't pull too many faces, and so don't have too many wrinkles now. there's still time, of course.

a middle-aged lady was visiting my workplace last week.
she was attractive, in a handsome, rather than a pretty way. as we chatted about the business at hand, she was relaxed and smiling. she was happy, and her face glowed.

this may sound strange, but it was perfectly appropiate at the time: I told her she had a beautiful face. at that moment, whilst we were chatting, and she was relaxed and open, her face did look beautiful. it looked strong and feminine. she gave me the impression of having endured much whilst managing to retain her essential self. it was a rather classical beauty.

she was shocked- a tear sprang to her eye.
"that's the first time in my life that anyone has told me I am beautiful," she confided. that seemed so sad. she showed me the face 'she wore' at home; it was a bit stern and grumpy, and her natural beauty was masked.

regardless of age, sex, colour, orientation etc etc
if someone is nice to you
be nice back.
that's a fair exchange.

I could, but it wouldn't be easy.
time and distance...
these things are easier face to face.
but then, you might not be able.
however, she wants me to
so here I am.
it will happen naturally
in its own good time.
you know she has always been there,
and you know the depth of her love and care.
call her
into your heart and soul.
listen to her
when she whispers.
yes,
it really is easy.
but only if you surrender utterly,
and few can achieve that.
mistreat her at your own peril.

words are ambivulent, aren't they?
their meanings can be adaptable, flexible.
we accept words without much thought or attention. we use words regularly with only a very basic understanding of what they mean.
words are potent, and chosen carefully can transport and transform us. a word at the right time can be the difference between happiness or despair. and equally, of a word at the wrong time.
one thing with spoken words is that once they have been uttered, they cannot then be taken back.

imagine if "the news at ten" were instead to be titled
"political propoganda, crime and murder, other bad news, celebrity gossip, and sport... at ten". would we still watch it?
would that title change our opinion of what was broadcast? I'm sure it would.
and, having mentioned celebrities... ugrh. I can't stand them;
maybe if we changed that word to a more descriptive and accurate one, such as- "ego-maniacs".
try substituting ego-maniacs for celebrity in common phrases...
like; "britney, the famous ego-maniac, was out shopping today, and was captured by the press..."
or; "b-list ego-maniacs".
etc

we all slag men off, and if we're honest, they do deserve it! we are so used to the negatives, there is little point in going over them again. not today, anyway.

I like it when they are gentlemanly; opening doors for me, taking my coat, being polite and attentive. sometimes they surprize you by doing or saying something really sweet and thoughtful.

it's wonderful that they have the instinct to protect and care for us. women nuture, yes, but men protect.
we have all heard the phrase "women and children first"... isn't that incredible? no way we would return the compliment, not en masse... and we know that it is much more than just a phrase. men have sacrificed a lot for us.
we are the warm hearth that they dream of and long for.

the more I think of it, the more I feel that the differences between us are not so important; not so vast as to be an unbridgable chasm. aren't we more similar than at odds? we are both flesh and blood.
so I s'pose it just comes down to hormones?

7."don't sell yourself cheaply; and always be respectful afterwards."

6."always follow your own way. take what you can; what you need, and use it well. always try your best; that will be enough. try to remember that your soul and your destiny belong to you alone."

5."don't jump to conclusions. by definition, you will probably be wrong."

4."getting people to like you is easy. just agree with them."

3."if you like someone, it is because of an instinctive pull towards them. your souls have resonated, and that is why you feel the need to draw closer. be confident that they have also felt it; they like you too."

2."it's not so complicated, darling, as you're making it out to be."

1."don't be friends with fat girls. that kind of persistant negativity is unhealthy for you to be around."